Thanks for sharing the tale! I’m similarly undergoing splitting with a person just who by any expectations would basically ranking in the top 85th otherwise 90th percentile of aˆ?highly attractive matesaˆ? (decent, responsible, economically protect, appealing, successful in a aˆ?glamour marketsaˆ?, among additional good qualities). While he is good (see: aˆ?socially correctaˆ?) if you ask me on a surface stage, the guy makes it obvious together with his frequent and effusive criticism and view that he doesn’t including which I am, and that I hold feeling just as if he’s wanting to flatten me personally into a cardboard cutout prop he can decorate over with whatever he desires me to be as an alternative.
While we demonstrably discover my inner voice saying, aˆ?(buzzer audio) NOPE! Not this!aˆ? and in the morning ready to stroll (in fact, I did that finally autumn, but the guy reeled me personally in), we nevertheless occasionally doubt myself personally and think, aˆ?Am I just are foolish and sabotaging something to all outward appearances seems like a good thing?aˆ?